Hello Wonderfully Made💐
In case you have been expecting me to finish the angles on the entanglement saga, I’m sorry.
I have been tensed with finishing some projects.
I haven’t finished them, but I need to untangle this entanglement as much possible from observation and perspective, so we can learn.
First, I want to say that Jada Pinkett’s entanglement is more common than we would like to admit.
As I kept pondering on the issue, scriptures kept popping into my mind.
“…let he that thinks he standeth, take heed lest he falls”
Never think you’re too old, too experienced, too matured or too whatever, to fall. If you don’t put measures in place to prevent entanglements and maintain the security of your boundaries, you will fall prey to an entanglement.
I managed to watch the Red Table Talk she had with her husband on this issue — the whole 12mins or so.
She got involved with another man, while she was on her marital break-time and it so happens that she more or less decided to take a snack. A snack that is now giving her family a bellyache. How is it that women take a bite and just about everybody else is affected? Kinda like Eve and her ill-fated snack.
She mentioned she was feeling suffocated in the marriage and she just needed that break. I just wonder if she can breathe easy, now that the world knows what she called her business.
Therein lies the problem. When you think what you do with yourself and who you do it with is your business, you don’t think of consequences or your reputation and those you love.
Hindsight they say is 2020 and boy, what a year!
I can’t imagine having to explain such an occurrence. Because I am accountable God, my loved ones, my parents, my legacy, the body of Christ, and myself. I represent them in more ways than one. Anything, I do can either cast a bad shade or good light on all I stand for.
When you think freedom is doing what you want, anytime you want, with whomever you want, however, you want; then you are in for a life with no reputation. You just move from famous to infamous.
If that doesn’t matter to you, then may I ask, where is your conscience? I hope we still recall what a conscience is because if we don’t then we certainly deserve what this virus has done to us.
This issue reminded me that again, maturity is not ageing. Maturity is being accountable and answerable to others. It’s sticking to doing what is right at all times.
Now if you must take a break, you want to make sure you don’t get into trouble. Some say Will isn’t faithful either. Maybe. Maybe not. If he’s been unfaithful he’s keeping it well under wraps.
Now the very idea of an open “marriage” is an insult to the institution. Marriage is not a club but an institution established by God.
And there’s this issue of Alcina saying he got permission from Will to date Jada. I don’t quite know what to make of that. But hey, men have been known to use their wives as bargaining chips. Some have gambled away their wives. Some have pimped their wives.
It’s therefore not unlikely that Will gave permission to another man his son’s age, I presume, to have a relationship with his wife.
But as far as I know, no man will come out and admit to such a disgusting “deal” now would they?
What the other man did not realise and I guess he has now after the fact, is the husband has the advantage of previous knowledge that should he decide to reel his wife back to his side, he could do it with considerable ease. No matter how good she may have felt with the other man and how suffocated she felt with her husband.
As he said at that Table, he’s working on winning her back. Which makes me wonder. If as he implied, he was done with her why did he want her back? Is it because he had a rethink? Is it because he couldn’t stand that she found happiness with someone else? Or he didn’t imagine her happiness will be found with someone as opposed to something.
He may have been joking about being done with her. But there’s this saying in South-West Nigeria that, you glean truth from humour.
Honestly, I wish Dr. Phil will jump on this one. You know with all three of them who are involved.
I rest it here for now.