Christian Musings, Singles' issues

Unequally Yoked.


Birds on the nearby trees took off at the loud shrieks of the women below.

“You mean you got married without telling anyone?”


Lancie, the first of the five women squad to find her voice, asked with a wail in her voice.

Finnie raised her hand,

“Wait. Are you pregnant? Because that is usually why most people like you would elope”

Nola the accused bristled,

“What do you mean by people like me?”

“Oh I don’t know Nola” Finnie said drily.

“People like you who have great plans and then suddenly settle for less.”

“Fiona Douglas. I did not settle for less and I’m not pregnant! What is wrong with you?”

Before Finnie could reply, Abby the peace maker, put in,

“Well you have to admit that your … news, has shocked us all and put us off balance. We were apparently not expecting your nuptials to happen in this manner.”

“Considering we didn’t even know she was seeing someone….” Faith threw her hands up in exasperation.

“Girls, don’t take it personal, but my family didn’t know either”

Another resounding “What?!” pierced the air.

“My, my. I may be young but this news — as Abby chose to term it — is certainly not good for my dear heart” Lancie placed her French manicured hand on her chest for emphasis.

“I think it’s my turn to ask: What. Is. Wrong. With. You?” Finnie rounded on Nola in indignation with concern written on her face.

Everyone rounded on Nola, as they all had the same question in their eyes, pinning her in place.

Nola fidgeted wondering how she was going to explain herself, which became clear she had to do.

“Again I repeat: nothing is wrong with me. It was spur of the moment that felt right. I just wanted to have a cozy private wedding — just the two of us.”

“Really.” Faith drawled, “With a man unknown to family and friends?”

“Actually, it’s someone you know.”

“Really?” Lancie arched her brow.

“Who is he?” Abby queried.

“Sean O’Hara”

“What?”, came the tired exclamation from women with jaws unhinged.

” This is serious.”

“Why are you doing this, Nola?”

“Now I get why she eloped. We would have protested”

“As we are now.”

“Yeah well. What difference does it make? The deed has been done.”

“Which was probably why the deed was done in secret.”

“This isn’t getting us any where”

“I don’t like this at all. I don’t like it one bit.”

As the ladies went back and forth, Nola thought back on why she eloped.

Sean was not her type. He wasn’t a deep Christian. He was more comfortable in the world than in the church.

Her friends and family knew that about Sean. They would have discouraged her from being with him.

But he was a good man and she loved him and the feeling was mutual. She didn’t want to loose him. So the moment he proposed she agreed and here she was. Married…

“Guess you’re Nola O’Hara now.”

“Yes Faithie”

“Are you happy?”

“I was. Up until you guys reacted the way you have. Now I’m afraid and a bit upset.”

“Well what were you expecting?”

“You denied us a chance to have a bridal shower in your honour. And denied us a chance of being your bridesmaids. All because you didn’t want us to help you look before leaping. You don’t expect us to be happy about that!”, Finnie railed.

“How did the family take it?” Abby tried to change the subject.

“More or less the same as you all.”

“I can imagine” Lancie sighed as she shook her head.

As they got to the brook that cascaded over rocks like tapestry on staircase in the groove-like trees, they sat as close to the stream as possible. The sun shining through the trees made the creek look like emerald crystal.

“So what do we do now?”, Finnie asked.

” We pray”,

Faith replied in resigned faith that all has to be well with her friend. Regardless of how unwise her marital decision to be unequally yoked was.

“I really appreciate this, Girls”

The Girls looked at her with tired smiles while shaking their heads.

“Lord have mercy on you, Nola”

“You’re going to need it”

Lancie said, as the other ladies got up, laid their hands on the new bride as they began to pray God’s blessings upon their friend’s new home.

“Jehovah our Father, in the name of Jesus Christ. We thank You for the life and union of Nola and Sean O’Hara……”

Thursday photo prompt: Hidden #writephoto

7 thoughts on “Unequally Yoked.”

  1. My name is Lia. I was born in Romania and my husband is a Nigerian. We have 3 children and 7 grandchildren. We got married as unbelievers 44 years ago. By the grace of God we are now saved. We are both retired medical doctors and now pastors in Nigeria. When my husband and I got married, the foundation of our marriage was love (impure love mixed with lust, I might say). Christ saved our souls and purified our marriage love. He changed our water love into wine love. As a pastor, I counsel people who plan to marry, especially the women. I see more and more young (and not so young) people who plan to marry for ‘business- like’ reasons. There is no romantic love as I used to know it. They marry to ‘settle’ in a marriage that has only financial or social gain. They call it love. But it is not. Many, even after their marriage, keep their single friends and the topic of their discussions does not change; it does not reflect their new position as married people.
    Your article reminded me of the danger of marrying to please friends or to impress the world. This is a real danger. It is an hindrance to the growth, to the maturity of the marriage relationship. Marriage is a gift from God. If you desire to marry, you must ‘leave’ before you can ‘cleave’ to your marriage partner (Gen 2:24, 25). This God ordained ‘cleaving’ is a covering so that in marriage, you do not feel ‘naked and ashamed’. If the husband or the wife are still closely connected to their natural parents and former friends, they will feel ‘naked and ashamed’. They will feel an inferiority complex concerning their status as a married couple. They shall lack the confidence and the holy boldness manifested in a godly mature marriage, as God designed it to be.
    Dear Ade-Oluwa, you truly have the gift of a good writer. Be encouraged and non apologetic concerning your gift. May God bless you, your family and the work of your hands!

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    1. Amen! Thank you ma for your wisdom. Whoa. First and foremost, you are — as we say in Nigeria — ‘our wife’! Though I’m too young a lass to call you that, I feel humbled and honoured by your impute. Thank you for the encouragement. I have about two people tell me I’m a good writer. But reading it from you makes me believe it more and I’m so touched….I feel like crying. God bless you, shower more bliss on your marriage, and answer His name in your life, family and ministry, in Jesus Christ name. Amen.

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      1. Dear Ade-Oluwa… ‘Long time no see…’ (as we say in Warri)…Here I am… Coming back to visit you again… since I wrote that note, some time has passed… I said that you ‘are a good writer’… you felt ‘like crying’… Since that exchange of feelings, what is God doing in your heart? Not in your hands or feet, but in your HEART?

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      2. Long time no see, indeed 🤦🤗 God has been doing a lot. It has been a lot of churning thoughts and fighting for clarity, peace, calm. But peace and calm has prevailed. Still praying for clarity though. Because of this, I had a lot of thoughts jumping over the other making it a bit scary to put my thoughts on virtual paper.
        I feel more encouraged to share my thoughts now. Thank you ma for checking up on me. I’m encouraged, touched and challenged.🌹🌼🎶


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