Hi Everybody!🎆I have been looking at the difference between pride and dignity. My thoughts:
I just think pride is refusing to admit that you need help. Pride is not wanting to show weakness and having this I-can-do-it-all-by-myself mentality and where does that take you to? Where does it take any of us to? Pride they say goes before a fall and the fall can come in different forms, because if you tried doing everything by yourself, you going to burn yourself out. You are burning yourself out and when you break down, who is going to take care of you? Then pride does not help anyone. It actually makes the people who love you around you feel incapable. That might not be your intent, but if they have the capacity to help you sometimes even if you can do it all by yourself, just to make your loved ones feel like a part of your life, let them help. You doing it all by yourself is shutting your loved ones out and how would you feel if someone you love refuses to accept any help from you, refuses to let you be there for them, you feel as if they don’t trust you. You begin to wonder “Exactly what am I doing here?” Put yourself in other peoples shoes especially your loved ones. I want us to be able to see life and love from a whole new perspective enough said about that.
What is dignity? Dignity is being comfortable in your abilities and inabilities. Knowing who you are; what’s your limits are, where your strengths lie. When you’re able to do that, you’re able to see life and others differently. You’re able to appreciate other people’s goodwill. Pride does not allow you — or us I should say — to appreciate the kind gestures of people around us even when we know that technically they love us, they want the best for us; but because we wouldn’t want to show weakness and we are afraid of being hurt we pushed them away, we shut them out and put on the shield of no-worries-I-can-do-it-by-myself-I-don’t-need-anybody. What if someone told you that and you love them. How would you feel?
Dignity comes from the heart of someone who is letting love in. Who is happening to life positively and who is letting life happen to them, positively. People willing to embrace the beauty of having loved ones around them.
You may ask, “Where is all this coming from?” Well, I was reading a novel and it was about a lady who trusted the wrong person in the name of love and this person wronged, robbed her of her independence, opportunities and gave it all to his mistress. She almost married the man. Then she met another man who was better, highly placed in the society. Someone you cannot brush aside, much more powerful actually, than the man who wronged her and thought it was his right to do it. It was obvious that the ex didn’t love her but because of that experience, she became bitter and cold. The new man wanted to step into the role of protecting her because she ended up marrying him the same day she was supposed to marry the man who wronged her and the man cancelled the wedding. It so happens that she met the man at the registry waiting for the man who was a mistake. And the woman the new man was supposed to marry was late for the wedding so it was a spur-of-the-moment decision. She married the man. He grew to love her and wanted to use his position to take her to heights in her career but she wanted to prove herself. Not that there is anything wrong with that. I mean I guess she had been out of practice so she wanted to prove to herself that she could take care of herself; but it was beginning to look like an obsession and it was hurting the man she was with, that she would be in pain and she would not allow him to help. That’s what pride does. It hurts the people around you sometimes you may even be able to do things by yourself like I had said before, but for your loved ones to be at peace, let them take care of you. Let’s embrace life, love and embrace God, so that we can live our life to the fullest.
I hope you enjoy your day and the rest of your week. Do not ignore your conscience and if you recognise the Holy spirit don’t ignore the holy spirit either. Live life, live your life in a way you would be able to sleep peacefully at night🌃
Till next time, Shalom🎇🦋🌴
Musings of a Sanguine Christian Woman 